I am not aware of any other German Mistress, who has as much
international experience as Domina Silvia. She has been working as a Mistress
in the USA, in Canada, and the Dominican Republic. Not to mention her work in
Germany.
A few years ago my slave Toytoy was so lucky to serve Domina Silvia in
Berlin. So I know first-hand what kind of excellent sessions one can experience
with her. Toytoy still enthuses about Domina Silvia's strict, consequent aura.
About her natural dominance and unique charisma. But also about her fairness
and sympathetic care. Today this attractive Mistress lives in sunny Spain, in
Madrid. If that is too far for you, you can meet her regularly in Augsburg, in
the studio of her friend Lady Nicole, the Domicile Dark Emotion.
Many readers might know Domina Silvia also from her fetish clips, which
appear under the label “SM Studio Berlin”. Her concept is to offer insight into
her life as a Domina. And to show sessions that really happen in her studio.
In short: Domina Silvia is a personality who must not be missing from my
series of interviews. A conversation about life in Madrid, filming, breaking
social taboos, the development of the scene, and the promotion of young
talents.
Translation: Slave Mats.
Lady Sas: Dear Silvia, you're living in Spain since 2008, because you
have more freedom for your fetish and SM clips. What are the other advantages –
apart from the nice weather of course?
Domina Silvia: I always liked to live abroad, like before in the Dom.
Rep., USA, and especially in Canada. It's a daily challenge, to literally fight
one's way through it. Not only the language, but also the mentality – sometimes
also the religions – need a special kind of sensitivity. The preferences seem
to be typical of the country. Another advantage of Spain is, at least for my
business activities, that the BDSM scene, if it can be called like that at all,
is rather small and the topic itself has not been around for long. You have the
possibility to get to know every well-known Domina in a short time, and the
slaves are mostly inexperienced, and therefore very shy when they contact you,
and not as assertive as some candidates in Germany, some of whom approach me
with a long wishlist and treat me like a service provider, who will work along
it for tribute. Not at all. They need to be educated more than the less
SM-aware Spaniards, who treat a Mistress as such, and who submit respectfully,
to offer their services in return. For my private needs I'd rather have a
larger variety of contacts and events, though.

Lady Sas: Are there disadvantages to living in Spain?
Domina Silvia: Oh yes, they definitely exist. Craftsmanship for domestic
purposes is really underdeveloped. I've witnessed work from illogical to
bloodcurdling, and of course from time consuming to nerve-wracking, too, and I
was directly affected. The organisation here leaves a lot to be desired. Even
in the capital one doesn't always have electricity or water. I had to learn
that “mañana” doesn't mean “tomorrow”, just “not today”. A big disadvantage for
me is, that the financial crisis is far from over, and the daily challenges
which I mentioned as something positive, start to take their toll.
Lady Sas: Where do you get your ideas for the films?
Domina Silva: The ideas for my films come almost always from my
imagination and they always represent my inclinations. And in the many years of
my career as a domina I've experienced many things, which then enter my films.
But every now and then I've also taken up suggestions from others, if they
appeared to be conclusive and realizable to me.
Lady Sas: Sometimes you're a guest at the DOMICILE DARK EMOTION in
Augsburg, which is run by your friend Lady Nicole, in order to meet your
regulars from your time in Augsburg. I think this is amazing. It shows how
intense your relations must be. If you know a slave for many years, isn't it
difficult to keep the relation fresh and exciting?
Domina Silvia: I'm not only occasionally in Augsburg, but quite
regularly. By now every month for two weeks. I've got many slaves there from my
time in the late 90s, when I came back from Canada, and lived there for a
while, before I was drawn back to the metropolis, Berlin. In the beginning I went back
only for one weekend per month, but then when I moved to Spain it became first
one and then two weeks. Of course I often have new slaves, but a long term
relation is what I'm looking for. My intuition is, that the better you know
each other, the more fun one can have. Fortunately I enjoy a lot of practices,
so that I won’t run out of ideas for creative sessions and exciting scenarios.
With some slaves one develops as a person, and the sessions become more
intense, and sometimes the focus shifts with time. And occasionally I have a
surprise in store. So it stays interesting. Even over many years, and when one
believes to know me very well.
Lady Sas: Does it happen that German clients visit you in Spain for a
session?
Domina Silvia: Yes, that happens. Also Italians, English, French, Dutch
people, etc. - because even in Germany I don't have exclusively German guests.
And if it is not possible to organize a session in Germany, then they visit me
in Spain. Most of my sessions take place in Germany, though.
Lady Sas: My slave once had the honour of seeing you in Berlin, and he
told me about your special liking for anal and toilet games. What makes these
things so fascinating for you?
Domina Silvia: It is fascinating for me, because it is perverted and a
social taboo, and it is a “hard” humiliation solemnized in an intimate setting.
Both practices require great dedication and trust from the slave.
Lady Sas: Do you still have fantasies you couldn't do yet? Or did you
live out everything by now?
Domina Silvia: There are certainly a few ideas in my head, which I haven't
tried yet. But for those not only the boundary conditions and my sadistic mood
must be right, but also the right slave has to be there. I'm sure, that I
didn't live out everything yet, and that I will discover or develop new facets,
that are not fully there right now. Sometimes I surprise myself.
Lady Sas: How do you see the general development of the SM-scene? Are
there more or less novices? Did you notice any special development?
Domina Silvia: With regard to the SM-scene I'm sure that there are more
and more novices for sure. The fetishes – at least as far as the guests in my
studio are concerned – tend to go more in the direction of humiliation,
helplessness, and being used, and
less towards masochism with punishment, pain, and correction.
Lady Sas: Can you recommend something for women, who are only starting
to discover their dominant side, and who are uncertain yet?
Domina Silvia: I'm always happy to help newcomers, and I'm sure it is
never too late and rarely too early. My recommendation is to turn to a well-known
dungeon, who often offer domina workshops for groups or individuals. Of course
the internet offers many possibilities to gather useful information, but there
is nothing better than real life experience under the guidance of a knowledgeable
person and in a safe environment.
Lady Sas: And now my final question: What are your plans for the future?
Would you reveal something about that?
Domina Silvia: I'm thinking about moving back to Berlin. This will
definitely take some time, because for my many activities I need to find the
right place. Thank you for your interest, and my best wishes for the readers.
Lady Sas: Thank you! And please let me know when you're in Berlin. I
bet, some readers would be dying to know …
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