Donnerstag, 21. Juni 2018

Mistress Hinako travels to Germany

Mistress Hinako
Mistress Hinako from Japan is extremely successful and demanded all over Asia. She is the one who's mainly been planning the Europe tours with her Femdom Colleague Lady Chiaki. Let's find out more about Mistress Hinako and BDSM in Japan in this interview. 

Lady Sas: Please explain how you first came into contact with bdsm and how you developed into a dominatrix.
Mistress Hinako:
I was born with bdsm masochistic/sadistic needs but I didn’t know what to do with them. When I was married I wasn’t allowed to do anything but I couldn’t hold it back so I secretly became a professional masochist. After I got divorced it became a full time job. I became a dominatrix after that because my body couldn’t take it anymore and I was watching a lot of dominatrixes doing their thing world-wide and I really wanted that too. Because of my masochistic experiences I have the necessary understanding to get what my clients like and what they can take.


Interview with Mistress Hinako from Japan


Lady Sas: What do you find fascinating about BDSM?
Mistress Hinako:
I don’t really know, I was born with so many fetishes so it’s just given that BDSM is part of my life.


Lady Sas: How does society in Japan deal with BDSM?
Mistress Hinako:
I’m so limited to the field of kinky and fetish people that I rarely get in touch with “normal society” and I’m not really interested in it either. It’s not seen as something positive, that’s what I can say.


Lady Sas: What image do you have in Japan when you think of German BDSM?
Mistress Hinako:
Dungeons, perfect outfits on beautiful mistresses who are whipping their slaves. Many lifestyle people, and it's more open compared to Japan.

"I love it and I envy you for living here"

Mistress Hinako

Lady Sas: We're honored that you're visiting our country. What do you basically think about Germany?
Mistress Hinako:
I love it and I envy you for living here. The food is good, everybody is extremely nice, you have an accepted professional position for mistresses, you can pay taxes and act the same like everybody else.


Lady Sas: How is your time in Munich and Berlin? Are you doing a kind of tourist programme by day and a kinky programme by night?
Mistress Hinako:
Zero tourism, only kinky things!


Lady Sas: In Germany we think of Mistresses from Japan as Shibari and Bondage Experts. What can you tell us about the background of this tradition?
Mistress Hinako:
Honestly there aren’t many Japanese Mistresses who can really do rope, it’s only a few.


Lady Sas: What is Shibari all about? What is the idea behind it?
Mistress Hinako:
There are many reasons why people do Shibari. Therapy, spirituality and all, but what I like is just the bondage of it. What I’m into is the immobility of the subject, so my intentions are purely kinky when it comes to Shibari.


Lady Sas: In Germany the BDSM movie "Tokio Dekadenz /トパーズ Topāzu" from Ryu Murakami is very popular. Is it well known in Japan, too?
Mistress Hinako:
Yes!

"Western guests are so so so much louder when they come!"


Lady Sas: Where are the differences between guests from Japan and Germany when it comes to session?
Mistress Hinako:
Most clients read and check our work so they book sessions for similar reasons. But Western guests are so so so much louder when they come! And German guests give an honest feedback about how the session was which I’m very grateful for. Here people are more into treating you like a queen, that happens less in Japan.


Lady Sas: What is the most popular fetish in your sessions in Japan and in Germany?
Mistress Hinako:
I think latex sessions and bondage.


Lady Sas: Please tell us a bit abour your private life. What do you do in your free time?
Mistress Hinako:
Honestly, I’m always kinky, also in my free time. I’m constantly playing with my friends.


Lady Sas: What are your plans for the future?
Mistress Hinako:
I would like to have my own SM dungeon (but it’s legally not possible in Japan).


Lady Sas: Thank you for your time and all the best.



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  • Dienstag, 19. Juni 2018

    Mistress Chiaki from Japan visits Germany – Interview

    Mistress Chiaki
    The stunning Mistress Chiaki from Japan and her gorgeous friend Lady Hinako were visiting Germany. They spent time in Munich and Berlin and so I had the pleasure to ask them some questions about BDSM in Japan and their view on German BDSM. Let's start with Mistress Chiaki. Enjoy!


    Lady Sas: Please explain how you first came into contact with BDSM and how you developed into a dominatrix.
    Mistress Chiaki:
    Since I was about 18 years old, I’ve been reading SM magazines. When I was 26 a friend asked me if I was interested in making it my profession and that’s when it all started.


    Lady Sas: What do you find fascinating about BDSM?
    Mistress Chiaki:
    First of all there’s nothing that makes me happier than doing what I love as a profession. And second, BDSM is extremely creative, I love that it challenges me intellectually, creatively and emotionally.

    Interview with Mistress Chiaki from Japan.


    Mistress Chiaki
    Lady Sas: How does society in Japan deal with BDSM?
    Mistress Chiaki:
    It’s hard to talk about the Japanese society in a few sentences, so I will only talk about what society sees of BDSM from the outside. I think they see it as entertainment. Such as shows or something underground and cool. I think they don’t perceive much more than that. The true lovers of BDSM don’t appear in the public very often (let's say they usually don't come out as BDSM lovers publically), therefore society doesn’t really have an opinion on them.


    Lady Sas: What image do you have in Japan when you think of German BDSM?
    Mistress Chiaki:
    Also in this case I can only speak for myself. The image I have of German BDSM is that it’s authentic. That it’s one of the few countries where you meet dominatrixes as you would traditionally imagine them (the “Herrin” image). That there are many rubber fetishists. I guess these are the main things that come to my mind.

    "Honestly, I would like to live here!!!!"


    Lady Sas: We're honored that you're visiting our country. What do you basically think about Germany?
    Mistress Chiaki:
    Honestly, I would like to live here!!!! It’s not that I know Germany so well that I can speak about the whole country, but it feels like a country that has a good balance.


    Lady Sas: How is your time in Munich and Berlin? Are you doing a kind of tourist programme by day and a kinky programme by night?
    Mistress Chiaki:
    I had already heard from people before I went there, but Munich felt a lot more conservative compared to Berlin. In Berlin I can smell the free spirit. Program-wise nothing really changes between day and night for me. Mostly I don't do any tourism and I do kinky things 24/7.

     
    Mistress Chiaki
    Lady Sas: In Germany we think of Mistresses from Japan as Shibari and Bondage Experts. What can you tell us about the background of this tradition?
    Mistress Chiaki:
    It’s a huge misunderstanding if you think that all Japanese dommes are experts on Shibari. To be honest, there aren’t many dommes who can really tie professionally. Since Shibari has spread all across the world, the level of skills can’t really be divided by countries. It’s all about the individual now. But it’s true that it comes from the Japanese Hojojutsu, the way of tying used on prisoners, so the tradition is routed in Japan.


    Lady Sas: What is Shibari all about? What is the idea behind it?
    Mistress Chiaki:
    Shibari is just Shibari to me. Many people doing Shibari add some extra meaning to it, such as philosophy, ideology or art. I think the receiving person is free to add any meaning to it as she/he wants, I focus on the tying itself.


    Lady Sas: In Germany the BDSM movie "Tokio Dekadenz /トパーズ Topāzu" from Ryu Murakami is very popular. Is it well known in Japan, too?
    Mistress Chiaki:
    Yes of course it’s very famous. I think anyone into SM has seen it at least once.

    "Japanese clients are very quiet during sessions."


    Lady Sas: Where are the differences between guests from Japan and Germany when it comes to session?
    Mistress Chiaki:
    It’s hard for me to compare Japan and Germany since my Japanese clients are pretty different compared to the clients of other Japanese SM clubs.
    One thing I can say is that German clients are very expressive. Japanese clients are very quiet during sessions.

     
    Mistress Chiaki
    Lady Sas: What is the most popular fetish in your sessions in Japan and in Germany?
    Mistress Chiaki:
    Since I’m very specialized in Shibari, mummification and other heavy bondage types, these are probably the most requested.


    Lady Sas: Please tell us a bit abour your private life. What do you do in your free time?
    Mistress Chiaki:
    When I’m free I practice Shibari or research for work most of the time. I’m a 100% work-oriented person and a lifestyle mistress.


    Lady Sas: What are your plans for the future?
    Mistress Chiaki:
    I’d like to get married, build the house of my dreams and live a relaxed life.


    Lady Sas: Thank you very much. It's a pleasure having you on my blog.



  • Find out more about Mistress Chiaki on her Website.
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  • Donnerstag, 14. Juni 2018

    KG-Training – aber bitte richtig

    Interessant: Keuschheitsschellen sind gefragt wie nie. Gut ablesen kann man das zum Beispiel am Angebot auf Amazon. Während es noch vor Jahren nur sehr wenige Keuschheitsgürtel (KGs) gab, ist heute die Auswahl erstaunlich groß und umfangreich. Immer mehr devote Männer und dominante Frauen scheinen das Spiel mit der Keuschheit für sich entdeckt zu haben. 


    Das bittersüße Spiel mit der Keuschhaltung


    Da aber nicht jeder Sub das Glück hat, eine Herrin zu haben, halten sich auch viele Sklaven selbst keusch. Ich weiß das aus E-Mails, die ich von Lesern meines Buchs "Keuschheitsgürtel-Training" bekomme. Da ich mir ab und zu das Vergnügen gönne, den einen oder anderen Sub bei seinem KG-Training zu begleiten, weiß ich, dass dabei noch immer typische Fehler gemacht werden und es zu Missverständnissen kommt. 

    An dieser Stelle möchte ich unterstreichen, dass es keine Regeln dazu gibt, an die sich jeder zu halten hätte. Nein, natürlich kann jeder machen, was er möchte. Und auch ich möchte keine Gesetze in Stein meißeln. Trotzdem denke ich, dass ich mit einigen Hinweisen durchaus dazu betragen kann, dass das KG-Training noch mehr bittersüße Lust bereitet.


    5 Tipps und Hinweise von Lady Sas 

    1. Nein, mein Lieber, KG-Training soll dir nicht körperlich weh tun. Das Ganze ist eine Kopfsache. Es geht um den bittersüßen Lustschmerz im Kopf. Wenn du Schmerzen hast, dann liegt der KG wahrscheinlich zu eng an, die Ringe sind zu eng oder dergleichen. In diesem Fall solltest du schnellstmöglich für Abhilfe sorgen. Du musst damit auch nicht warten, bis deine Herrin zustimmt. Nimm den KG ab. Sofort. Solche Schmerzen wollen wir nicht. Sie können schnell dazu führen, dass sich Blasen bilden. Das ist nicht beabsichtigt und auch kein Zeichen von Stärke, wenn der Sub glaubt, das aushalten zu müssen. 

    2. Ja, die meisten KGs sind nicht ausbruchsicher. Mein Sklave Toytoy zum Beispiel hat mit dem CB 6000 angefangen und hätte sich daraus mit geringem Aufwand befreien können. Es geht meiner Meinung nach nicht darum, einen ausbruchsicheren KG zu finden. Subs sind einfallsreich und finden im Zweifel immer einen Weg, sich zu befreien. Oder zumindest, sich einen Orgasmus zu verschaffen. Deshalb kommt es hier auf das Mindset an. Akzeptiere, dass dein KG nicht ausbruchsicher ist und dass es deine Herausforderung ist, trotzdem die Finger davon zu lassen.

    3. An der Frage, ob dauerhafte Keuschhaltung ganz ohne Orgasmus schädlich sei oder nicht scheiden sich die Geister. Die einen meinen, es habe keine negativen Auswirkungen. Die anderen sagen, dass es im schlimmsten Fall zu Impotenz führen kann. Ich persönlich teile Letzteres und glaube, dass man den Sexualapparat regelmäßig trainieren muss. Permanente Keuschhaltung ganz ohne Orgasmus kann ich daher nicht empfehlen. 

    4. Hygiene ist sehr wichtig und du solltest dich täglich so gründlich wie möglich waschen. Ohne Ausnahme, ohne Kompromisse. Ja, ich weiß, dass es lange dauert und umständlich ist. Trotzdem gibt es keine Alternative dazu. Sonst bilden sich unschöne Gerüche oder Schlimmeres. Und das wollen wir ja nicht.

    5. Ja, ich finde es in Ordnung, wenn der Sub einen Notfallschlüssel bei sich haben darf. Und nein, ich finde es nicht in Ordnung, wenn der Sub den Notfall selbst weit auslegen darf. Ein Notfall ist ein Notfall und nicht ein plötzlicher Drang, dem der Sub nachgibt. Natürlich gehört ein großes Maß an Vertrauen dazu, dem Sub diesen Notfallschlüssel auszuhändigen. Ich denke mal, die meisten Subs werden den Schlüssel nutzen, um zu schummeln. Deshalb hat mein Sub Toytoy auch keinen Notfallschlüssel. Ich kenne ihn einfach zu gut... Wie gesagt: Ich finde es in Ordnung, wenn eine Herrin das Vertrauen hat. Aber es kommt eben immer auf den Einzelfall an.

    So, das wollte ich gerne mal loswerden. Nun wünsche ich Dir weiterhin viel Vergnügen beim KG-Training. Mehr zum Thema findest du auch in meinem Buch "Keuschheitsgürteltraining – 7 Tage im KG mit Aufgaben von Lady Sas".

    KG Training